Step by Step Instructions to Identify and Overcome Perfectionism

Unable to identify perfectionism? Or looking for new ways to identify it? Maybe you have been having high standards of yourself? Getting hard on yourself in the event that you do things not as much as great? You could be battling from compulsiveness. Read on to discover more.

Written by:

Ashley Gilmour, Clinical Psychologist, BPsych(Hons); MPsych(Clinical)

9 min read

Numerous individuals around us are always taking a stab at what I call “the pursuit of perfection”. This is the place the individual sets their own bar as achieving nothing less than 100%. Perfection might be for their every objective or a specific aspect of their life. Striving for the pursuit of perfection can be exceedingly debilitating and overpowering. Distinguishing and defeating the pursuit of perfection is not as challenging as it may appear.

Typical mindset and behavior qualities of perfectionists:


Individuals with perfectionism have a tendency to invest excessively energy considering the task that they have to complete before they really begin the errand. A  person feels a considerable measure of uneasiness, stress or heaviness hanging over them, or report feeling as if they are continually burdened by weight met by negligible efficiency. This outcome in shirking = Dawdling (sometimes known as Procrastination.)

Not having the capacity to get ahead

Usually, the perfectionist will tend to feel that regardless of what they do, they can never excel in their work/errands set to get finished. This can tie in with delaying on the grounds that in case you’re not really making a move to complete the work, you’re not proceeding. On the other side, the perfectionist can be taking the necessary steps, anyway very regularly they have a tendency to invest a great deal excessively energy in the better and generally pointless subtle elements of the task drawing out the timeframe to get the job done. pointless subtle elements of the task drawing out the timeframe it takes to get the job done that is, it may be “done” when it is “perfect”.

There is no space for botch attitude

There is no allowance for committing any errors whatsoever as it is a central element of “perfectionism”. Truth be told, there is typically a solid dread of committing errors. Individuals who encounter perfectionism have a tendency of win big or bust or high contrast mentality where their execution is just “sufficient” on the off chance that they’ve done it to 100% without makes or mistake, generally, it’s loaded with imperfections, and “not adequate”.


Normally, when a man who experiences perfectionism makes a “mistake”, they generally feel that they need to punish themselves in some sort of way since they’ve been “terrible” or done “wrong”, or they’re “not worthy”. Self-discipline can be as rationally beat themselves up, not enable themselves to participate in or encounter a joy/remunerate, indulge on nourishment, to physically hurt themselves (e.g., hit themselves), or inebriate themselves on drugs/liquor.

Compare self to others

Individuals with perfectionistic inclinations can frequently compare their own execution with the other person performance. For the most part observing other people groups’ nature of work as being “immaculate” or superior to their own, which quite often influences them to feel like they’re a “failure” or “not sufficient” considerably more.

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Care excessively what other people think

What other individuals consider them? how they see them? Regardless of whether they “affirm” of or “acknowledge” them is exceedingly vital for individuals who are perfectionists or experience traits of perfectionism regardless of whether they deliberately understand this or not. They have a tendency to decide their esteem or self-esteem as a man in view of what other individuals consider them whether they’re commendable or adequate according to others.

So what’s the reason for all this perfectionism?

Great question! Incidentally, the perfectionist has learned an arrangement of convictions or projects about themselves, commonly along the lines of:

I should be the most lovable person.

  • I can’t commit errors else I’m not good.
  • In the event that I don’t get it 100%, I’m a failure/pointless/useless/insufficient.
  • I should dependably give everything 100% else I’m not investing sufficient effort/being sluggish/pointless.
  • In the event that I commit an error, this will result in the discipline/criticize from others.
  • If I commit errors, other individuals won’t acknowledge/love me.
  • On the off chance that I commit an error, at that point, it will prompt fiasco.
  • Regardless of how high I accomplish, it’s never sufficient.
  • I will never be sufficiently effective.

So where do these convictions/ programmings originate from? Regularly between the age of 0-7 years of age is the place we get the greater part of our programming from. As the time pass, we would have experienced some sort of life circumstances or “injury” where we went up against these constraining convictions such as being proud of accomplishments but then having a significant person like parent, teacher as often as possible disclose to you how you didn’t do adequate or how you could have “improved the situation”, or being continually informed that you’re “useless” a “failure”, that “you won’t add up to anything” and so on or being disregarded, or beaten if you committed an error, among other conceivable situations.

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When we suffered from trauma, our subconscious mind stuck onto this trauma and it tends to continue influencing us without us even realizing it. Accordingly, we take part in these practices as adults are out of habit and not really know the reason.  Maybe it’s because it is our past stuff still lodged in our subconscious and not healed. To read more about the subconscious mind Click here.

How would we beat perfectionism?

Defeating perfectionism isn’t as tough as it may appear. It needs small work, however, it is justified, despite all the trouble!

Just follow these simple steps!

  • Have the awareness that of how you might engage in perfectionism
  • Become aware of your beliefs/programming driving this behavior
  • Challenge these beliefs/programs by shifting your mindset and changing your behavior
  • identify where some of these programs came from (the past situations) so you can then release/shift these traumas at the subconscious level which will shift your beliefs/programming and consequently your behavior.
  • Learn to love and accept yourself for all that you are, for you are perfectly imperfect as nobody is “perfect”.
  • Realise that you don’t need to prove your worth to anybody.

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Having trouble identifying and overcoming your own perfectionism or have a question or query? Contact Ashley your Gold Coast Psychologist via email or on 07 55743888. We are more than happy to help you!